The exact same event can happen to two different people and get two different results. One person gets angry and the other responds in love and compassion. Anger is a choice. No one actually “makes” you angry. You choose to be angry. No one reaches inside your head and hits the anger button. The only way it gets pushed is if you push it yourself. For men, anger is often more an expression of hurt, fear or sadness (or even just hunger 😉 ) than anything else. It is something we can control. We can grow in our maturity so that we don’t blame others for our feelings. So I am no longer letting people “make me angry.” Instead, I am trying to take responsibility for my own feelings.
A Few Significant Problems With the Four Spiritual Laws
One of the most popular ways of presenting the gospel over the last half century or more is the idea