Category Archives: Marriage

The Importance of Making Decisions

Life is full of decisions. Sometimes people make decisions that affect you and other times your decisions affect others. There are some decisions that anyone can make and others that you should make for yourself or others.

We are trying to teach our children the value of making wise decisions. Our older son, who is 6, often replies to a choice with “whichever one you want me to have.” While that is awful kind of him to take what he is given, he also needs to learn to make decisions for himself and learn that with decisions comes responsibility. That, I believe, is why so many people are indecisive…once you choose something you exclude everything else. We don’t like those consequences so we either don’t decide (until the last minute…which is why signup sheets never work) or we let someone else decide for us (so they can take the blame when things go south). Both of those results are often an inconvenience to others.

Another thing I see happening is that we can default into allowing other people to make the decisions under the guise that others will be happier if they make their own decisions. In marriage, this can happen where one spouse ends up having to make every decision and gets over burdened. Our attempt to be considerate and make the other person happier ends up having the opposite effect!

Don’t be afraid to make a decision. Often the consequences for not making one are greater than the consequence of choosing poorly.

What Happens in Vegas Goes Straight to the Blog

This past weekend Missy and I renewed our vows for our 10th Anniversary…in Las Vegas…with Elvis. Enjoy!

What To Cover in Pre-Marital Counseling

Most ministers are going to do pre-marital counseling at some point in time. When you get that request where do you turn to find out what to cover to prepare this couple for a life long commitment to one another? Here is my basic outline of things to cover when doing pre-marital counseling. This isContinue Reading

Law, Grace, and Love – Think in Terms of Wedding Vows

It is clear as can be that the New Testament contains commandments and the Old Testament contains grace. So it is hard to draw lines between them when it comes to what God was looking for in each. I tend to think he was looking for the same thing in both testaments. He was lookingContinue Reading

Ephesians 5 – Husbands, Wives, and Mutual Submission?

I am in the process of writing small group curriculum for Paul’s prison letters. The text in focus right now is Ephesians 5:21-6:24 and part of that is Paul’s “household code.” Paul mentions three sets of relationships in chapters 5 & 6 that each have two parts: husbands & wives, children & parents, slaves &Continue Reading

Mark Gungor Explains Differences in the Male and Female Brains

Great stuff… This is from this excellent video series called Mark Gungor: Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage which I would highly recommend for ministers who do pre-marital and marital counseling and would also be a good resource for a couple looking to understand each other better. It is a 4 DVD set forContinue Reading

The Question

My wife Missy has about as many questions as anyone I know. They are not just questions for the sake of asking questions. She is genuinly curious and wants to know the answer. When we were dating and even a few times in our marriage she would ask “The Question.” It would go something likeContinue Reading

Updated Marriage, Family and Parenting Resources Page

Just a note that the marriage and family resources tab has been updated with many more great links. I hope to annotate many more of the links in the near future. Here is the link.

Pepperdine’s List of Family Ministry Resources

Pepperdine has a great online list of resources to help churches and ministries that want to reach out to families. This is a very good list. Here is the link. HT: Tim Spivey

Ben Witherington’s Post on Redefining Marriage

BWIII just put up a thought provoking post on redefining marriage and looking at it from a Christian perspective. Very informative and thought provoking. Here is the link. Here are some excerpts: “What should Christians think of this matter? Well, in the first place not only is marriage defined in the Bible as an actContinue Reading

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