One of the hangups people have on discipling are the abuses of the past. They point to the Boston movement and shun even the idea of discipling due to some abuses of hierarchical and high accountability measures that characterized other movements.
Does discipleship have to be hierarchical? Where one person is clearly the more mature and the other person less mature in their faith?
I don’t think it has to be setup that way. It will always be the case where one person is more mature than the other but that isn’t really the point.
What is the point? Jesus is the teacher. We are not. Jesus is the head. We are not. We facilitate conversations and prayers with other Christians in an effort to grow closer to the Lord, together.
It shouldn’t focus on who is in charge unless that person in charge is Jesus.
This strips out some of the potential temptations and abuses that have often plagued discipleship programs in the past. It keeps all parties on even footing. If there is accountability it can never be forced and it must always be mutual (both parties accountable to each other).
So yes, one person in a discipling relationship will most likely be more mature than the other person but that shouldn’t be the focus. Jesus should be the focus. Jesus is in the lead. We are just helping each other and learning from each other. It all should be mutual.
Let me know your thoughts and experience with this in the comments!