There are some circles where theological discourse is as healthy as ever while in other places people are rabid and vicious. Paul addressed this among the Galatian Christians in Galatians 5,
“If, however, you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.” (5:15).
Right before that Paul wrote this,
“For the whole law is summed up in a single commandment, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (5:14).
5:15 is extreme objectification of the “other.” It is treating someone not as a someone but as a something. You don’t bite and devour a someone. You bite and devour a something. When we begin seeing our “opponent” as an object we are willing to do whatever it takes to win. However, if we love our neighbor as ourselves, we will not be tempted to devour them because they are recognized for who they are.
Be careful that you don’t objectify the person you discuss theology and doctrine with. It is far too easy to do and it happens far too frequently. Instead, make sure you always see them as your neighbor. When you do, you will love them and when you love them it will be impossible to objectify them.
This is how we move ahead to have productive conversations together.